Today I am coming to a 'Paws' to reflect upon one of the most important aspects of marriage...'Communication'.
Why does it seem that before marriage we are more capable of successfully communicating with each-other; but after marriage all communication seems to breakdown?
Often, I believe the answer can be found within our 'emotions'. Before marriage we felt one over-powering emotion....love. But now the emotions of hurt, anger, disappointment, resentment and fear often dominate. These emotions do not encourage us to communicate. Or, if we do it is likely to be critical.
Sometimes our emotions cause us to speak out of anger and create even more negative feelings. I guess the key is learning how to share emotions without the hurtful connotation of condemnation, while still being able to share whats on our hearts openly with the person we love.
To do this, it takes tremendous amounts of patience and self-discipline. Some-days, more than I think I could ever possibly posses!
I guess the thing to remember is that no one is a 'mind reader'. Without positive communication, loving relationships cannot flourish!
Stress is another aiding factor that works to further breakdown our communication. If we are not at peace within ourselves...how much more can we bring into our relationships? When we are stressed or disappointed in life, oddly it's much easier for us to take it out on the person with whom we are closest to. Probably because we all know that no one else has to listen or care as much about us or our feelings.
I believe the solution to these problems are finding ways in which we can resolve conflict quickly and calmly leaving both people feeling loved, heard, validated and understood! There are many ways to go about attaining information on conflict resolution, one of my favorite resources can be found here.
To do this, it takes tremendous amounts of patience and self-discipline. Some-days, more than I think I could ever possibly posses!
I guess the thing to remember is that no one is a 'mind reader'. Without positive communication, loving relationships cannot flourish!
Stress is another aiding factor that works to further breakdown our communication. If we are not at peace within ourselves...how much more can we bring into our relationships? When we are stressed or disappointed in life, oddly it's much easier for us to take it out on the person with whom we are closest to. Probably because we all know that no one else has to listen or care as much about us or our feelings.
I believe the solution to these problems are finding ways in which we can resolve conflict quickly and calmly leaving both people feeling loved, heard, validated and understood! There are many ways to go about attaining information on conflict resolution, one of my favorite resources can be found here.
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